Dividing The Wedding Expenses

This aspect of wedding planning is something that comes up very early in the planning process. In the olden times, the bride and her family spend for everything in the wedding, except the rings and honeymoon, which are shouldered by the groom.

In modern times, however, the more popular and convenient way is to divide the wedding expenses between the bride and groom and/or both families. Below is a traditional list of who pays for what, but it can be modified and the final decision depends on who is most willing and able to pay. Though the attendants usually spend for their attire, the bride may also assume the expenses for her attendants and the groom for his.

BRIDE and/or her FAMILY

Save-the-dates, invitations, announcements, thank yous, personal notes, napkins, and mailing expense.
Rehearsal dinner.
Bridal brunch/luncheon.
Bride’s wedding attire/trousseau.
Bridesmaids’ bouquets.
Church fees, including fees for musicians.
Ceremony rentals. (arches, candelabras, chairs, etc.)
Ceremony/Reception flowers.
Groom’s wedding ring.
Groom’s gift.
Gifts for the bridal attendants
Rental of reception hall.
Caterer, food, beverages and wedding cake.
Gratuities for bartenders, waiters
Wedding programs.
Guest book.
Photography and videography.
Transportation for the bridal party.
Wedding planner’s fee.
Accommodations for out-of-town bride’s attendants.
Physical examination and blood test

GROOM and/or his FAMILY

Marriage license.
His blood test.
Clergyman/Officiant Fee
Bachelor dinner.
Groom’s wedding attire.
Flowers for the bride’s bouquet, corsages for the mothers.
Groom’s boutonniere.
Groomsmen & Usher’s boutonnieres.
Gloves/Ties/Ascots for attendants.
Bride’s rings.
Gift for the bride.
Gifts for the groom’s attendants.
Accommodations for out-of-town groom’s attendants.
The honeymoon.


Bachelorette party. (Maid Honor & Bridesmaids)
Bachelor party. (Best Man & Groomsmen)
Wedding gift for the couple.
Their wedding clothes.
Car decorations. (Best Man)
Travel expenses.