Wishing The Newlyweds Well

Some of the things one can expect at weddings are gifts. Many guests often bring gifts to the newlyweds to help them as they start their life together. These gifts can be in the form of kitchen wares, dining wares, bed linens, towels…the list goes on. Some guests, who may be too busy to shop or are not sure what to buy, often decide to give monetary gifts. While other gifts can safely occupy an assigned gift table at the reception, the latter has to be provided with a special, more secure container. Quite often, it is a wedding wishing well.

The original wishing well concept is something that has existed for ages. This is a popular concept present in many folk lore or fairy tales. Either as superstition or simply for fun, it is traditionally believed that a wish mentioned at the wishing well, especially when a coin is dropped into it, can come true. Just like the wishing wells of the olden days, the wedding wishing well is also a way for guests to extend their wishes for prosperity and good luck to the newlyweds.

In the modern times, the wishing well has been adapted in weddings and many other occasions where monetary gifts, checks, and cards are expected. It’s not exactly like the stone-walled well that Snow White sang her wish to. It’s often wooden, portable and as lightweight as possible, so it can be brought to the venue for the wedding reception and can easily be transported to the newlyweds’ or their families’ home after the event.

The wishing well comes in handy especially when the couple prefer cash gifts than in kind. It may be because they have already established a home, already have many of the household items necessary in building a home, they are saving for a house, or planning to move abroad after the wedding, among many other reasons. Usually, when this is the case, the couple would let their guests know through sending a wishing well poem or by word of mouth, as the guests inquire of their gift preferences.


Many samples of wishing well poems can be found online. You can just easily pick which one very closely describes your situation. Here are some of the popular samples:

Sample # 1:

Soon you will hear our wedding bell,
As Friends and family wish us well.
Our household thoughts are not brand new,
We have twice the things we need for two.
Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,
We’re having instead a wishing well wedding.
But more important we ask of you,
your prayers of love and blessings too!

Sample # 2:

To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying.
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well.
Fill it with paper all colors will do, gold is our favorite but silver will do.
Now that we have saved you, all of that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.

Sample # 3:

More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with Love and Care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in our home we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
(But only if you wish to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish …. but shhh don’t tell!
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we’re sure
That one day soon you will get what you wished for.

Sample # 4:

To support us on our special day you may wish
to follow with tradition and bring a gift.
Or alternatively you may like to help us
make our honeymoon a little more special.
For this reason we have chosen a wedding wishing well.
The wishing well will be at the reception
where we can receive your best wishes and contribution.

Sample # 5:

This wishing well is here today for family and friends. Take an
envelope, make a wish and please drop it in. As it falls into the
well your wish, for the couple, will come true. A token for the
couple, to help them begin, will be welcomed, too. Please take the
time to make a wish before the day is through.

Sample # 6:

If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift,
feel free to surprise us in your own way.

A word of caution though: Though this practice has become more popular in the recent years, there is still a division of opinions regarding the wishing well concept. While many has accepted this trend, there are also many who feel offended with this idea. This is due to the various cultures and beliefs present in the world, therefore the best factor that can help you decide whether to have a wishing well or not is simply to examine the culture of those who will be present at your wedding. If you belong to a culture wherein cash gifts and wishing wells have been embraced (such as most parts of Australia and Asia), then go ahead and have this feature at your wedding. But if your guests belong to a culture who think wedding wishing wells are offensive or tacky (such as most parts of the western hemisphere), then you might have to really think twice before hiring a wishing well to have at your wedding.

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